With my disabilities the way they are, i've had a lot of online relationships 99% of them i've met up with and had proper face to face relationships with. This includes ben and this one has turned out rather well :D I've had one online relationship that was solely online, this was because he lived in america and i live in england and neither of us have the money to go trooping halfway around the world to meet. But i've webcammed him, which was fun, nothing kinky, just chatting and i got to show him bits and pieces he found interesting, like tshirts, posters, etc. but we didn't do this until quite a long since it started, this was due to me being nervous about seeing people on webcam (autism: bad with meeting new people) and i didn't and couldn't afford a webcam myself. But we swapped photos back and forth, again, nothing kinky.
I don't like kinky stuff online and as soon as i talk to someone who starts to lean that way, i get suspicious and just block and delete them. Because clearly they have an agenda, other than just getting to know someone. But with dan, i never had that problem. I've known him for about 11 years this year and we had an on and off again romance for about 3 years before we just became good friends - our circumstances had changed because we had found other people that we were dating face to face, so we let it go. It wasn't a big thing, it was just nice. And it's good that we could flow and adapt like that. I still hear from him time to time and he's married now with a couple of kids and he knows about ben and we just have a bit of a catch up and we talk about history and religion - he's astrau.
So yeh, i think it works really well with some people, but others they prefer meeting face to face and getting to know someone that way. Whereas i prefer to get to know someone online, because you get to know their personality better, there's no other distractions. But you do have the risk of getting a person wrong. Ben is terrible online, he comes across as a bit of a weirdo lol and i did actually run the risk meeting him, but i had talked to him online and there was no kinky business. So in my mind i had judged him as being a certain way, but as i got to know him face to face i found him to be totally different. He's sweet and lovely and totally not a jerk that i had misjudged him to be. So yeh... Not sure where i'm going with this now haha.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
no subject
Date: 2013-02-06 05:57 am (UTC)I don't like kinky stuff online and as soon as i talk to someone who starts to lean that way, i get suspicious and just block and delete them. Because clearly they have an agenda, other than just getting to know someone. But with dan, i never had that problem. I've known him for about 11 years this year and we had an on and off again romance for about 3 years before we just became good friends - our circumstances had changed because we had found other people that we were dating face to face, so we let it go. It wasn't a big thing, it was just nice. And it's good that we could flow and adapt like that. I still hear from him time to time and he's married now with a couple of kids and he knows about ben and we just have a bit of a catch up and we talk about history and religion - he's astrau.
So yeh, i think it works really well with some people, but others they prefer meeting face to face and getting to know someone that way. Whereas i prefer to get to know someone online, because you get to know their personality better, there's no other distractions. But you do have the risk of getting a person wrong. Ben is terrible online, he comes across as a bit of a weirdo lol and i did actually run the risk meeting him, but i had talked to him online and there was no kinky business. So in my mind i had judged him as being a certain way, but as i got to know him face to face i found him to be totally different. He's sweet and lovely and totally not a jerk that i had misjudged him to be. So yeh... Not sure where i'm going with this now haha.