Thoughts: Toxic Family
Jan. 23rd, 2013 12:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sitaangelBlood is thicker than water.
I agree with that statement and that is how it should be with family. Family should stick together. However, if you have a family member that is a toxic person, you shouldn’t be expected to stick up for them or to overlook their behavior.
I fully believe that in order to live the best life you can, you need to cut out the toxic people in your life. All that those people add to your life is drama. You don’t need drama in your life. You don’t need other people causing problems for you or even being a danger to you.
Toxic could mean just about every bad behavior that is really bad. If someone is a pathological liar, a thief, someone who commits horrendous crimes (rape/murder), or someone who has a temper that could lead them to eventually harm someone else someday (to name a few behaviors I believe to be toxic). Those types of people you shouldn’t have to put up with even if they are family. Like I said in the beginning, if you have a family member that is toxic you should be able to cut them out of your life until they stop being toxic.
I’ve run across a lot of people who disagree with me (my own family included). I’m always told you should stick by your family member no matter how toxic they are because they are family. You just don’t turn your back on family. I’ve asked some of these people why is it so wrong to cut someone out of your life who is making your life a living hell so that you can have a better life. And all that most of them can say is that would make you a very selfish person.
I call bullshit. It is not being selfish by trying to keep the negative out of your life. It is not some horrible thing to cut a toxic family member out of your life. That is what I think and I am sticking to it. :)
If you are reading this from my LJ there will be another post coming about my very own toxic family member and the crap that has been going on lately.
I agree with that statement and that is how it should be with family. Family should stick together. However, if you have a family member that is a toxic person, you shouldn’t be expected to stick up for them or to overlook their behavior.
I fully believe that in order to live the best life you can, you need to cut out the toxic people in your life. All that those people add to your life is drama. You don’t need drama in your life. You don’t need other people causing problems for you or even being a danger to you.
Toxic could mean just about every bad behavior that is really bad. If someone is a pathological liar, a thief, someone who commits horrendous crimes (rape/murder), or someone who has a temper that could lead them to eventually harm someone else someday (to name a few behaviors I believe to be toxic). Those types of people you shouldn’t have to put up with even if they are family. Like I said in the beginning, if you have a family member that is toxic you should be able to cut them out of your life until they stop being toxic.
I’ve run across a lot of people who disagree with me (my own family included). I’m always told you should stick by your family member no matter how toxic they are because they are family. You just don’t turn your back on family. I’ve asked some of these people why is it so wrong to cut someone out of your life who is making your life a living hell so that you can have a better life. And all that most of them can say is that would make you a very selfish person.
I call bullshit. It is not being selfish by trying to keep the negative out of your life. It is not some horrible thing to cut a toxic family member out of your life. That is what I think and I am sticking to it. :)
If you are reading this from my LJ there will be another post coming about my very own toxic family member and the crap that has been going on lately.
