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Actions speak louder than words.
There was once a time when I did not believe that. Words used to always mean more to me than actions did. I think that was because writing is a huge part of my life and thus words are a huge part of my life. I placed more value on words because of that. But, I learned my lesson the hard way.
I dated a guy who knew all the right words to say. He was good. When it came to following through on what he said - well, there was no follow through. He couldn't show that he wanted to be with me. In fact, all his actions just showed me that he didn't really care if he was with me or not. The relationship didn't last long, thankfully. I spent many days during it, though; banging my head against a wall in frustration. It hurt to be dating a guy who acted like he didn't want to be with me.
I realized then that while words are nice and needed, there also has to be actions to back up those words. Now I'm a huge believer in actions speak louder than words. A person can say sorry a thousand times and 'I love you' all they want, but if they're not going to prove that the things they say are true, then they're not worth listening to.
If the person you are in any sort of relationship with treats you like crap, it doesn't matter what they say. They can promise they'll change all they want, but if they don't prove it through their actions, don't believe anything they say. They will just continue to treat you like crap and unless you like being treated like crap, get the hell out. Their words mean crap.
Live by what I live by: If someone wants to be with me they will show me. If they can't or don't want to prove it with their actions, then I don't need to be with them.
There was once a time when I did not believe that. Words used to always mean more to me than actions did. I think that was because writing is a huge part of my life and thus words are a huge part of my life. I placed more value on words because of that. But, I learned my lesson the hard way.
I dated a guy who knew all the right words to say. He was good. When it came to following through on what he said - well, there was no follow through. He couldn't show that he wanted to be with me. In fact, all his actions just showed me that he didn't really care if he was with me or not. The relationship didn't last long, thankfully. I spent many days during it, though; banging my head against a wall in frustration. It hurt to be dating a guy who acted like he didn't want to be with me.
I realized then that while words are nice and needed, there also has to be actions to back up those words. Now I'm a huge believer in actions speak louder than words. A person can say sorry a thousand times and 'I love you' all they want, but if they're not going to prove that the things they say are true, then they're not worth listening to.
If the person you are in any sort of relationship with treats you like crap, it doesn't matter what they say. They can promise they'll change all they want, but if they don't prove it through their actions, don't believe anything they say. They will just continue to treat you like crap and unless you like being treated like crap, get the hell out. Their words mean crap.
Live by what I live by: If someone wants to be with me they will show me. If they can't or don't want to prove it with their actions, then I don't need to be with them.
