Thoughts: It Takes Two
Aug. 15th, 2013 03:06 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sitaangelThe effort that you put into a relationship should be the same as the effort your partner puts in. If you're putting in 100% then your partner had damn well better be putting in 100% too. If you are putting more effort into the relationship than your partner is then...
RUN! Get the hell out of that relationship because there is likely something wrong and it just ain't going to work.
Unless, of course, you like being treated like crap and constantly wondering if your partner wants to be with you. Then that would be a great relationship for you, I guess.
This is what I've learned thus far:
1. You shouldn't have to be the one who always makes plans to see your partner. If your partner wants to be with you they will have no problems calling you up and saying 'hey, let's do this'.
2. You shouldn't have to be the one who is always going over to the other person's home. It should be you visit them, they visit you, you visit them, they visit you, etc. Unless one of you likes being the one to always visit the other.
3. You shouldn't have to be the one who is always calling them or texting them or whatever. If your partner really wants to be with you and knows the value of communication, they will do their fair share of calling you up or texting you or whatever.
4. If you are always doing your best to make time to see them or at the very least talk to them, you have every right to expect your partner to do the same thing. I don't care how busy you and your partner are, you make time to see or talk to each other. If your partner doesn't do that, they probably don't care if they are with you or not.
I think all of the above is very reasonable. I know some may disagree with me, but that's the way I see things.
It takes two to make a relationship work.
RUN! Get the hell out of that relationship because there is likely something wrong and it just ain't going to work.
Unless, of course, you like being treated like crap and constantly wondering if your partner wants to be with you. Then that would be a great relationship for you, I guess.
This is what I've learned thus far:
1. You shouldn't have to be the one who always makes plans to see your partner. If your partner wants to be with you they will have no problems calling you up and saying 'hey, let's do this'.
2. You shouldn't have to be the one who is always going over to the other person's home. It should be you visit them, they visit you, you visit them, they visit you, etc. Unless one of you likes being the one to always visit the other.
3. You shouldn't have to be the one who is always calling them or texting them or whatever. If your partner really wants to be with you and knows the value of communication, they will do their fair share of calling you up or texting you or whatever.
4. If you are always doing your best to make time to see them or at the very least talk to them, you have every right to expect your partner to do the same thing. I don't care how busy you and your partner are, you make time to see or talk to each other. If your partner doesn't do that, they probably don't care if they are with you or not.
I think all of the above is very reasonable. I know some may disagree with me, but that's the way I see things.
It takes two to make a relationship work.
