Thoughts: Asking too much?

[sitaangel]

I don't even know what I want to say. I really don't.

I'm not a horribly picky person. I never have been. I know all the big things I'm looking for in a relationship. I know what my deal breakers are. They aren't that many, really. I'm kind of simple like that. I don't ask for the world.

Yet, when I sit here and think about the small things a person can do to make me feel good in a relationship, I start to think I'm getting entirely way too picky.

I don't know. I just need someone who is willing to let me know I'm wanted.

Talk to me when we're not together. Be the one who initiates contact first sometimes. Don't make me be the one to do so all the time. Let me know you're thinking about me when we're not together. Don't be afraid to tell everyone and anyone that we're together.

All that seems like common sense things to do. Yet, apparently I can't find anyone who will actually do any of that. So, then I start to wonder if I am asking for too much. Is that too much to ask for?

It's not a good feeling knowing that you could probably go days without talking to someone if you didn't contact them first.

I should be able to want someone who isn't going to make me feel that way without feeling like I'm asking for too much. But, I do anyhow. meh.

Is that how dating works these days? One person puts in all the effort and the other person doesn't?

If it is, I'm going to really wonder why I thought dating again was such a good idea. Haha.

Comments

[rubyelf.livejournal.com]

I thought I was crazy and needed way too much for anyone to ever want to deal with me.

Then I met my husband. That was almost eight years ago, and apparently he's not tired of me yet.

It can happen... but it tends to happen when and where you're not expecting it.

[blackheart19.livejournal.com]

Not asking too much at all. Thats pretty normal to want thosw things. What you put in, you should expect to get back from the other person. If youre not, cut your losses and find someone who does ;D for the sake of our hearts we need to be ruthless, after all we dont live forever and theres certainly plenty of fishies swimming around to be fished lol dont worry about it sweetie, spread your net and have fun. The one for you will be the one who sticks around after all the shrimps have long gone :) and he will do anything to make you feel good and wanted.